This past Saturday was a day filled with randomness. It started off with a plan to the MoMA. After that, the rest of the day was pretty much a toss up. My friend and I just went with the flow, and had a great time. This was nothing new to my friend, but for someone like me who needs to know what’s going on, and what we’re doing, for how long, and where, this was definitely a nice change of pace. I was out of my comfort zone and I was loving it.
We walked aimlessly and found ourselves in bars, meeting people, at a comedy club, and hung out with the comedians afterwards. We did end up getting pretty drunk, and woke up to buncha texts from numbers we couldn’t recognize. Overlooking the part where we spent most of Sunday hung-over, I would say the day/night was a success.
Since the theme of Saturday was being completely random, I took the liberty to do something I’ve been wanting to for a while now. I’m the type to sit back and let life happen TO me, especially when it comes to love. I believe if it’s going to happen, that it will happen to me, and I don’t have to make anything happen. In a perfect world, this would make total sense.
I sent a text to the guy I’ve pining over/missing the last couple of weeks. I was able to get him out of my mind for a little while, but that did not last long. There is something about this one. Everything is better when I know I can talk to him. I threw out all my rules for him. All I cared about was being able to see him, and talk to him, and be around him. I didn’t care anymore, I wanted to talk to him already! I wanted him back in my life.
I watch the show Girls on HBO. In fact, I polished off an entire season in one night. And I noticed something: each girl on that show has gone AFTER her man, AND she got him! Not that I’m going to take advice from a bunch of 20 somethings who seriously can’t get it together, but there has to be logic to this.
You can’t just sit back and expect a guy to know what you’re thinking, and know what you’d like him to do for you. You’ve got to be in his face, clear as day, saying “Listen up dumb-dumb, I like you, and I want to talk to you everyday, and see you and be with you. Make it happen or tell me what the deal is so I can move on.”
So I just sent a simple text saying “Hey, what’s up?” We exchanged pleasantries and then he basically wanted to know why I was texting him, but not in so many words. I simply said I just wanted to see how he was doing. Which was true, but I fucking wanted him back…bad. He said it was very nice and unexpected surprise, and he thought he would never talk to me again because he got a bad vibe from me.
Bad vibe? Talk about your plan to play hard to get blowing up in your face.
I told him that I didn’t want to not talk to him again, and he said he was relieved (relieved???) because he really enjoyed talking to me (cue the swooning!).
These Girls may be onto something here. Following their lead actually worked. Why not reach out to a guy first? If you want him, then GO GET HIM! Majority of the time he probably wants you, too, but just doesn’t know how to go about it, or is too scared of rejection.
To top everything off, I even suggested we hang out this weekend, to which he did not object to. His friend is having a birthday party this Saturday, and he asked me to go with him. I don’t know if this is a good thing or a bad thing. Is he trying to keep it neutral? Does he want me to meet his friends? His friends to meet me? Or is he trying to kill two birds with one stone by having me go with him to the party? UGHH!! I don’t know, I just hope all this does not blow up in my face again. I really like this one guys! If this doesn’t work out then, I’m going to seriously contemplate lesbianism.
I always believed that the guy should chase the girl, and the girl should be won over, but maybe it’s time to update my beliefs on dating. This is not 17th century France, this is New York City circa now. Girls wanted to be treated equally to men? Then we better grow a pair and start acting like it.